Friendship, Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit

Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit with our: Friendships


Hello, girls!!

I have wanted to start a series of sorts for you girls on here for a while, but I couldn’t decide on the topic of the overall series. After some brainstorming and lots (I mean lots) of different (and cool) ideas, I decided on one that I felt like would be fun to talk about: Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit.

This series will be about how we can live a better life as we grow into womanhood. I will discuss how we can purify ourselves in all aspects of our daily lives in lots of different posts.

Today’s topic is Friendship.

How can we purify ourselves with our friendships, you ask?

Well, first off, I believe that we all need to set a couple of standards for people we are friends with. And I don’t mean all that “you have to do exactly what I say and do what I do” wishy-washy trash, I mean that, as Christians, we can’t go off befriending people who are bad examples for how we should behave as Christians. For example, here are my standards for friendship:

  • he/she DOES NOT use any foul language
  • he/she DOES NOT wear inappropriate clothing (at least in public)
  • he/she DOES NOT try to dishonor God in any way
  • he/she IS NOT a bully in any way or form to any person
  • he/she is able to treat me as a friend should be treated and vice-versa

So, those are my standards for the people whom I am friends with. I am not friends with anyone who does the opposite of anything on that list, and I do not intend to try to be friends with anyone who does the opposite of anything on that list.

Now, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t try to reach out to people who need the Lord  -because we should all do that – but I personally would not invite someone over to my house who swears, wears inappropriate clothing, and does not treat me (or someone else) nicely. Would you? Yeah…I didn’t think so.

But, we can’t just judge a person by their outside, right? We can’t just say “oh, that girl’s shorts are too short so I’m not gonna be friends with her”. Before becoming friends, I get to know the girl/boy a tad. Not, like, having him/her over to my house or hanging out “like friends do”.

I mean listening when he/she is talking (NOT eavesdropping) so that I know what he/she talks about. Sometimes (it depends on the person) I even ask a good, Christian friend who knows him/her and can tell me what he/she is like.

We all need to set standards for our friendships. It may seem like you are limiting your options for friends, but believe me, you will end up having a few very valuable friends rather than a bunch of bad influences that we call “friends”.

Make the right choices and you will have best friends who will be by your side for the rest of your life. 🙂

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18 thoughts on “Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit with our: Friendships”

  1. Great post! For me, a homeschooler, I don’t meet a lot people outside our homeschool co-op/church/other churches (at least not that I get to know super well), so I’ve never really met anyway who could actually be my friend that I wouldn’t want to be my friend … except while playing sports and stuff. Some of the girls on my soccer/basketball teams have been … kinda cruel, I guess. Anyway, I have a bunch of friends in the homeschool group … but I’ve found that the ones I’m actually able to get deep with (like, talk about subjects that are hard or stuff like that) and agree with are the ones I end up being best friends with. Although being able to enjoy them is also important, I guess.


    1. I’m a homeschooler too, but I have met other people through choir, volleyball, and even Youth Group that I wouldn’t want to be friends with. There is this “group” of girls who go to the same middle school at my youth group and they are…well, let’s just say they don’t know how to apply those rules to their friendships. They actually brought a friend to youth group and she swears (like, colorful swearing) when only her friends are around. I used to try to be “a part” of their group, but quickly learned that they are NOT people whom I can trust.

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      1. Yeah, some people can be really mean if you give them a chance. I’ve learned to put my foot down if someone’s mean to me and kinda say (mentally/with actions), “Okay, you can be as mean as you like to be to me, but a: I don’t care and b: my friendship is your loss.” 😉 Okay, not really …


      2. Yes, they can. xD I know someone who I used to be best friends with, but found out that at summer camp she had bullied my sister. I dropped her like a hot potato after that. 😉

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  2. This is a great post! I have a question… maybe you can answer:
    At my school, EVERYBODY swears. Except me and maybe one other girl. It’s just… a normal thing, normal adjectives, normal ways to talk. My two best friends swear… and I want to be friends with them, they are super funny, creative, nice, we have similar interests – pretty much everything you’d want in a BFF. 😛 But they do swear… So I guess my question is, how can I be friends with them, despite their poor language? Thanks!

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    1. Hi, Jordan! I do have an answer! I think that first, you should let them know that you don’t like it when they swear. It is key that they know how you feel about the way they talk. Second, ask them to remember not to swear at least around you. If you are at their houses, or they are at yours, or you’re even just talking at school, ask them to save the foul language until your ears aren’t listening. Hope this helps! Thanks for commenting. 🙂


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