I have wanted to start a series of sorts for you girls on here for a while, but I couldn’t decide on the topic of the overall series. After some brainstorming and lots (I mean lots) of different (and cool) ideas, I decided on one that I felt like would be fun to talk about: Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit.
This series will be about how we can live a better life as we grow into womanhood. I will discuss how we can purify ourselves in all aspects of our daily lives in lots of different posts.
Today’s topic is Friendship.
How can we purify ourselves with our friendships, you ask?
Well, first off, I believe that we all need to set a couple of standards for people we are friends with. And I don’t mean all that “you have to do exactly what I say and do what I do” wishy-washy trash, I mean that, as Christians, we can’t go off befriending people who are bad examples for how we should behave as Christians. For example, here are my standards for friendship:
- he/she DOES NOT use any foul language
- he/she DOES NOT wear inappropriate clothing (at least in public)
- he/she DOES NOT try to dishonor God in any way
- he/she IS NOT a bully in any way or form to any person
- he/she is able to treat me as a friend should be treated and vice-versa
So, those are my standards for the people whom I am friends with. I am not friends with anyone who does the opposite of anything on that list, and I do not intend to try to be friends with anyone who does the opposite of anything on that list.
Now, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t try to reach out to people who need the Lord -because we should all do that – but I personally would not invite someone over to my house who swears, wears inappropriate clothing, and does not treat me (or someone else) nicely. Would you? Yeah…I didn’t think so.
But, we can’t just judge a person by their outside, right? We can’t just say “oh, that girl’s shorts are too short so I’m not gonna be friends with her”. Before becoming friends, I get to know the girl/boy a tad. Not, like, having him/her over to my house or hanging out “like friends do”.
I mean listening when he/she is talking (NOT eavesdropping) so that I know what he/she talks about. Sometimes (it depends on the person) I even ask a good, Christian friend who knows him/her and can tell me what he/she is like.
We all need to set standards for our friendships. It may seem like you are limiting your options for friends, but believe me, you will end up having a few very valuable friends rather than a bunch of bad influences that we call “friends”.
Make the right choices and you will have best friends who will be by your side for the rest of your life. 🙂