Friendship, Guest Post, Relationships

Repairing a Relationship

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Broken relationships are as old as the Bible. In Psalm 55:12-14, David describes his pain because of a friend’s betrayal,

“For it is not an enemy who reproaches me; then I could bear it. Nor is it one who hates me who has exalted himself against me; then I could hide from him. But it was you, a man my equal, my companion and my acquaintance. We took sweet counsel together, and walked to the house of God in the throng.”

Because we invest love and time into our relationships, a part of us is destroyed when a relationship is damaged. Thankfully, there are practical steps available to handle a broken relationship. Here are four that I have applied in my life.

1) Meet in person

Technological communication can cause us to forget the real person with vulnerable emotions on the other side of the text or email. When a friendship is waning, arrange a time to see each other. If meeting in person is not an option, then try a phone or Facetime call. Talking directly forces you to engage with each other, which is often lacking from text or email. Establishing personal, direct communication can breathe life into a dying relationship.

2) Be honest

Dramatic confrontations are unnecessary, but we do need to be open about our feelings. Several months ago I mentioned to a friend that she was not responding to my texts. She explained that she had been extra distracted and busy lately, which eased my mind. In the past, I have overreacted to relationship problems, only to discover the facts later. My friends did not suddenly start hating me; they just had commitments that prevented them from contacting me. Being honest can save friendships and keep drama to a minimum.

3) Face your failings

Proverbs 28:13 says,

“He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.”

This is especially true with family relationships. We cannot undo our mistakes. However, we can show genuine remorse to the person we hurt and express a desire to change our behavior. After genuinely apologizing to the person we hurt, we should recognize the problem with our behavior and ask for their grace and support as we work to fix that character flaw.

4) Ban bitterness

It hurts when a friend stops communicating for no apparent reason, but jumping to conclusions only worsens the situation. We are not aware of their present situation. They could be dealing with something that has captured their attention. Even if they have chosen to move on, we must remain positive because bitterness only hurts us. Whether or not that relationship is ever restored, we can choose to highlight the positive memories and diminish the bad. Just like David in the Bible, we will face broken relationships. Tension is a part of living in a broken world. But God is the repairer of broken things. When we surrender our relationship to Him and prayerfully take steps to restore the relationship, we can trust that He will give us His wisdom.

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Joy, Thankfulness

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Hope y’all had/are having a great Thanksgiving! Since it is Thanksgiving, I thought I would share some verses and thoughts about thankfulness and thanksgiving….

The Pilgrims had a lot of things they could have grieved about. Many died in the hard and cold winter before, and they were in the wilderness. But instead, they gave thanks for their blessings, such as their Indian friendship.

It can be super hard to be thankful, especially when times are bad. But there is always something to be thankful for. When I have had a really hard week, I can be thankful that God gave me trials that I could bear up with. When we hear about something really bad in the news, we can be thankful that God is in control! Again, it is hard to be thankful in an evil world! So, here are some things I am thankful for:

  • My family
  • Vacations to fun places
  • Latin class
  • Young Ladies for Christ
  • My friends whom I meet every Sunday, and every Wednesday
  • Music
  • A roof over my head
  • Sleep
  • That God loves us and is in control of the world

And here are some verses that reminded me of how praiseworthy our God is:

 Psalm 100:4:

“Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name.” Psalm 100:4

Ezra 3:11:

“With praise and thanksgiving they sang to the Lord: “He is good; his love toward Israel endures forever.” And all the people gave a great shout of praise to the Lord, because the foundation of the house of the Lord was laid.”

1 Chronicles 16:34:

“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.”

If you have a free moment, here is a thanksgiving hymn 🙂

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So, have a happy Thanksgiving!!! Eat lots of turkey, stuffing, and remember why we are celebrating!

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DIY, Thankfulness

DIY: Thankfulness Tree

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Hello, ladies! For those of you in the U.S., can you believe that Thanksgiving is tomorrow?

One of my favorite parts of Thanksgiving is making what I call a Thankfulness Tree. Making a Thankfulness Tree is such a fun way to count my blessings, and I thought that I would share it would all of you so that you can make one, too!

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Supplies needed:

Scissors

Small glass jar or vase

Sticks

String

Colored paper (Orange, red, and yellow)

Hole Puncher

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First, put the sticks in the jar. This part is really easy and will be your “tree”. 😀

 

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Next, cut out several leaf shapes from the colored paper. (Pretend mine look like leaves ;D)

 

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Punch a hole in the leaves and tie a loop of string to them.

And now, the most fun part!

Write something that you are thankful for on every leaf, and see how many leaves you can cover your tree with throughout Thanksgiving day!

 

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What are some things you are thankful for today?

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving, and if you don’t celebrate Thanksgiving, have a wonderful day!

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