Hey there, girls! How are you all doing?
So if you can’t tell by the title, this post is about letting your inward beauty shine just as strong or stronger than your outward beauty. As a teenage girl, I know sometimes I get caught up in my looks too much. My OUTWARD looks…
But I came to realize that I wasn’t actually looking for attention on my outward appearance. You see I was..and still sometimes am, but it didn’t give me the kind of satisfaction that I wanted when someone told me that I looked pretty…
Okay, so let me explain a little bit- don’t worry, I’ll try to make it short and not boring. So, I have long hair. Thick too…. and I get quite a few compliments on it. Now I like that, don’t get me wrong. But I was with someone for about a week and when it came time for us to write on things and say how we felt about each other, she said my hair was pretty. It shouldn’t have, but that kind of HURT. Not because she complimented my hair, but because she DIDN’T complement my INWARD actions. I wanted to hear “You’re a wonderful person. You’re loving, kind, and energetic.” Instead, it was “you have pretty hair.” Don’t get me wrong, that was really nice of her to say, and I’m glad she did… because it helped me to realize what I was truly looking for. I didn’t want attention on my outward appearance! I wanted people to think of me and how I really was, not how I looked. I know sometimes we get so caught up in our outward appearance that we forget about how important it is to have inward beauty. Let God’s beauty shine through you!
Look, I’m a teenager! I get it!!! So… I’ll share something kind of personal with you girls so that you know just how much I get this…
I had a boy tell me I was beautiful recently. I’ll admit it made my heart flutter a little bit. It’s not easy for me to confess this. I know I’m way too young to have a boyfriend, and I DON’T want to date yet!!! But there is a feeling that comes with someone – especially a really cute, nice boy- telling you that you are beautiful…and you know they mean it. I’ll also admit that I thought about that for a while… it made me realize just how much I HAD been wanting to hear something like that… But… I would much rather have someone like me (a boy) because he likes how I am on the inside, not just how I am on the outside, so I learned not to keep dwelling on it. Because it’s not that important. Also though, you need to know that it’s not a sin to like a boy. To think he’s cute, or to have a crush on him! Now if you let it get too deep, then yes, it very well can be a sin, but simply thinking someone is cute isn’t a sin. I used to think it might be…but I’ve since realized that it’s a natural girl behavior… SO don’t worry a ton about it… now on to the next topic…
Am I saying we have to appear ugly to everyone so that our inward beauty is able to be seen? Not at all!! But we have to be careful on how evident it is that we want to be seen with amazing outward appearance. It’s not bad to be pretty! But if your outward beauty outshines your inward beauty, then… you might want to examine yourself a little more closely…
Girls….you’re all so beautiful. You might say “how would you know? I don’t even have my face in my profile picture!” I know because you are reading this right now. I KNOW, because you follow this blog. I KNOW BECAUSE YOU LOVE JESUS CHRIST! I KNOW BECAUSE YOU WERE MADE BY GOD!!!! And the SAME ONE WHO MADE THE STARS, THE NEWBORN BABIES, AND THE SAME ONE THAT FORMS EVERY SUNRISE AND SUNSET
He made you! So you are BEAUTIFUL! Girls… be beautiful on the inside..AND THE OUTSIDE! This isn’t a lecture, it’s an encouragement.
Now, some helpful tips on this… (tips, not orders)
- Watch what you wear
Now I know this one is hard sometimes… Now I’m not saying you have to dress like a hobo…but you can be cute without wearing clothes that show too much skin, or the exact shape of your body. Now if you believe that this is fine…that’s alright. I won’t judge you…but girls, this world is a crazy place..and it’s better to be safe than sorry. What I always tell myself when I think about this, is “Do I want my future husband to be attracted to me because of how I’m dressed or how I look? Or do I want him to notice my smile, my laugh, and my actions?” For me, definitely the latter.
- Watch what you surround yourself with
This one is a struggle for me sometimes. I have to remember that looks aren’t all that matter. If you have friends that all dress a certain way, or criticize what you wear, it’s hard to stay modest and focused on your inward beauty. I find myself wanting to wear things that I think make me look skinnier or curvier (as weird as that sounds), but then I remember how much I love my friends that don’t dress like that too. Because of who they are on the inside. The people I look up to the most, I look up to because of who they are, not because of what they look like, or because of their clothes. So I remind myself to surround myself with people that are more focused on God, and inward beauty, and surround myself less with people who are focused too much on outward appearance.
The reason I put “Watch WHAT you surround yourself with”, is because there are things other than people that can be unhealthy. For me, one of those things is romance books. When I read too many, I start thinking only about guys, and hardly at all about praying, God, or reading my Bible. Also when I listen to certain songs, it can make me really sad or almost lonely, and cause my inward beauty to become less. Now I’m NOT saying that it’s bad to have friends that don’t ALWAYS focus on inward appearance. That’s not bad! You must be friends to them too! But you need to surround yourself with positive influences too, people to keep you accountable. In the same way, I’m not saying books or songs are BAD, you just have to limit yourself and ask yourself “Is this healthy for me?”.
- Strengthen your walk with God
I can’t possibly stress how important this is! Girls, when you have a strong bond with the Lord…it literally makes EVERYTHING SO MUCH EASIER AND MORE FUN! You will be overflowing with God’s joy without even TRYING! This one is super important! And praying, reading your bible and such all go along with this too!!
- Feel free to talk to us
We care about you! I – we – can relate to what you’re going through..and even if we can’t, I can promise we’ll pray for you as you’re going through whatever it is. It’s hard, yeah, but with someone to talk to, it can be SO much easier..
SO pretty much what I was trying to get across on this post was:
- Let your inward beauty (aka God) be brighter than your outward beauty (aka clothing, looks).
- Strive to be noticed for your faith and attitude (in a good way) rather than for your looks and clothes.
- Look, you can still be a girl. And be pretty! Let God shine through you too though!!! He wants people to see him through you! And pretty soon, your inward beauty will OVERWHELM AND BECOME YOUR OUTWARD BEAUTY!
- Girls, believe me when I say this, even though it might not seem like it- there is DEFINITELY more to being a teenager than drama, looks, and boys.
I will now end with some verses for you all to ponder:
1 Samuel 16:7b
For the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.
1 Peter 3:3-4
3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.
I love you, girls! SHINE FOR GOD!!!!!!
And FEEL FREE TO TALK TO US!!!!