Beauty, Courage, Friendship, Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit, Relationships

Your Inward Beauty…


Hey there, girls! How are you all doing?

So if you can’t tell by the title, this post is about letting your inward beauty shine just as strong or stronger than your outward beauty. As a teenage girl, I know sometimes I get caught up in my looks too much. My OUTWARD looks…

But I came to realize that I wasn’t actually looking for attention on my outward appearance. You see I was..and still sometimes am, but it didn’t give me the kind of satisfaction that I wanted when someone told me that I looked pretty…

Okay, so let me explain a little bit- don’t worry, I’ll try to make it short and not boring. So, I have long hair. Thick too…. and I get quite a few compliments on it. Now I like that, don’t get me wrong. But I was with someone for about a week and when it came time for us to write on things and say how we felt about each other, she said my hair was pretty. It shouldn’t have, but that kind of HURT. Not because she complimented my hair, but because she DIDN’T complement my INWARD actions. I wanted to hear “You’re a wonderful person. You’re loving, kind, and energetic.” Instead, it was “you have pretty hair.” Don’t get me wrong, that was really nice of her to say, and I’m glad she did… because it helped me to realize what I was truly looking for. I didn’t want attention on my outward appearance! I wanted people to think of me and how I really was, not how I looked. I know sometimes we get so caught up in our outward appearance that we forget about how important it is to have inward beauty. Let God’s beauty shine through you!

Look, I’m a teenager! I get it!!! So… I’ll share something kind of personal with you girls so that you know just how much I get this…

I had a boy tell me I was beautiful recently. I’ll admit it made my heart flutter a little bit. It’s not easy for me to confess this. I know I’m way too young to have a boyfriend, and I DON’T want to date yet!!! But there is a feeling that comes with someone – especially a really cute, nice boy- telling you that you are beautiful…and you know they mean it. I’ll also admit that I thought about that for a while… it made me realize just how much I HAD been wanting to hear something like that… But… I would much rather have someone like me (a boy) because he likes how I am on the inside, not just how I am on the outside, so I learned not to keep dwelling on it. Because it’s not that important. Also though, you need to know that it’s not a sin to like a boy. To think he’s cute, or to have a crush on him! Now if you let it get too deep, then yes, it very well can be a sin, but simply thinking someone is cute isn’t a sin. I used to think it might be…but I’ve since realized that it’s a natural girl behavior… SO don’t worry a ton about it… now on to the next topic…

Am I saying we have to appear ugly to everyone so that our inward beauty is able to be seen? Not at all!! But we have to be careful on how evident it is that we want to be seen with amazing outward appearance. It’s not bad to be pretty! But if your outward beauty outshines your inward beauty, then… you might want to examine yourself a little more closely…

Girls….you’re all so beautiful. You might say “how would you know? I don’t even have my face in my profile picture!” I know because you are reading this right now. I KNOW, because you follow this blog. I KNOW BECAUSE YOU LOVE JESUS CHRIST! I KNOW BECAUSE YOU WERE MADE BY GOD!!!! And the SAME ONE WHO MADE THE STARS, THE NEWBORN BABIES, AND THE SAME ONE THAT FORMS EVERY SUNRISE AND SUNSET


He made you! So you are BEAUTIFUL! Girls… be beautiful on the inside..AND THE OUTSIDE! This isn’t a lecture, it’s an encouragement.

Now, some helpful tips on this… (tips, not orders)

  • Watch what you wear

Now I know this one is hard sometimes… Now I’m not saying you have to dress like a hobo…but you can be cute without wearing clothes that show too much skin, or the exact shape of your body. Now if you believe that this is fine…that’s alright. I won’t judge you…but girls, this world is a crazy place..and it’s better to be safe than sorry. What I always tell myself when I think about this, is “Do I want my future husband to be attracted to me because of how I’m dressed or how I look? Or do I want him to notice my smile, my laugh, and my actions?” For me, definitely the latter.

  • Watch what you surround yourself with

This one is a struggle for me sometimes. I have to remember that looks aren’t all that matter. If you have friends that all dress a certain way, or criticize what you wear, it’s hard to stay modest and focused on your inward beauty. I find myself wanting to wear things that I think make me look skinnier or curvier (as weird as that sounds), but then I remember how much I love my friends that don’t dress like that too. Because of who they are on the inside. The people I look up to the most, I look up to because of who they are, not because of what they look like, or because of their clothes. So I remind myself to surround myself with people that are more focused on God, and inward beauty, and surround myself less with people who are focused too much on outward appearance.

The reason I put “Watch WHAT you surround yourself with”, is because there are things other than people that can be unhealthy. For me, one of those things is romance books. When I read too many, I start thinking only about guys, and hardly at all about praying, God, or reading my Bible. Also when I listen to certain songs, it can make me really sad or almost lonely, and cause my inward beauty to become less. Now I’m NOT saying that it’s bad to have friends that don’t ALWAYS focus on inward appearance. That’s not bad! You must be friends to them too! But you need to surround yourself with positive influences too, people to keep you accountable. In the same way, I’m not saying books or songs are BAD, you just have to limit yourself and ask yourself “Is this healthy for me?”.

  • Strengthen your walk with God

I can’t possibly stress how important this is! Girls, when you have a strong bond with the Lord…it literally makes EVERYTHING SO MUCH EASIER AND MORE FUN! You will be overflowing with God’s joy without even TRYING! This one is super important! And praying, reading your bible and such all go along with this too!!

  • Feel free to talk to us

We care about you! I – we – can relate to what you’re going through..and even if we can’t, I can promise we’ll pray for you as you’re going through whatever it is. It’s hard, yeah, but with someone to talk to, it can be SO much easier..

SO pretty much what I was trying to get across on this post was:

  1.  Let your inward beauty (aka God) be brighter than your outward beauty (aka clothing, looks).
  2. Strive to be noticed for your faith and attitude (in a good way) rather than for your looks and clothes.
  3. Look, you can still be a girl. And be pretty! Let God shine through you too though!!! He wants people to see him through you! And pretty soon, your inward beauty will OVERWHELM AND BECOME YOUR OUTWARD BEAUTY!
  4. Girls, believe me when I say this, even though it might not seem like it- there is DEFINITELY more to being a teenager than drama, looks, and boys.

I will now end with some verses for you all to ponder:

1 Samuel 16:7b

For the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.

1 Peter 3:3-4

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

Matthew 5:8

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.

I love you, girls! SHINE FOR GOD!!!!!!


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Books, Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit

Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit with Our: Readings


Hello girlies! Sorry I didn’t get this posted yesterday. Anyways, welcome to post #3 of my series: PMBS (Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit)! You can read post #1 HERE and #2 HERE.

Sometimes, it can be hard to find a clean book to be engrossed in. Or, it can be hard to find a clean blog or magazine to follow or subscribe to. Because that is one of the areas we can purify ourselves in as well; what we read.

I will separate this post into three sections: 1, books; 2, blogs; and 3, magazines for Christian girls to read.

Unless you are not allowed/cannot/do not want to read anything with magic or fantasy-ish things (like elves and light catchers {practically magic wands}), this is a clean NYT Bestseller series that I personally LOVE.

– The Mysterious Benedict Society Series

There are four books in this series, and it strangely all makes sense. Such an interesting idea of what might happen if four kids saved the world was never found but in this series.

– The Anne of Greene Gables Series

There are many (eight in total) books in this series. L. M. Montgomery did a great job on every one. I recently found and bought Rainbow Valley, the second to last book in the series of Anne and her children. It wasn’t as good as the first one (when is it ever?) but I enjoyed it very much!

A Question of Honor (Questions of War #1)

I beta-read for this indie published book, and I LOVE it! Jesseca did such an amazing job! A clean read set in the WWII times for ages 12+.

– The Love Comes Softly Series

These books (eight in all) are very good if you like historical fiction (which I do). I would recommend this series to girls 12+ (just like A Question of Honor) just because it was originally intended to be Women’s Fiction and YA Fiction.

  • Blogs

– Girl Defined

I love to read this blog so much! Written by two young women serving God in their 20s, this is one organization I couldn’t keep off my list. They do post about stuff for older teen girls (sex, relationships, marriage, etc.) but there is content appropriate for younger young women here as well. 🙂

Scattered Journal Pages

An amazing teen named Amanda shares her thoughts on, well, everything here. Although this started out as more of a blog for teens to read, it has reached my heart as a kind of ministry that Amanda started.

A Purpose and a Promise

Emily is a beautiful poet and a daughter of God who fills her posts with the love of our Savior and the (amazing) rhyming of poetry.

Having a Heart Like His

Hosanna Emily posts on this blog about faith, writing, and everything in between. She has indie published one book (The Mystery of the Midnight Trespasser) that I enjoyed very well!

Madi Grace

Oh. my. word. Have you ever heard of a blog SO amazing? I mean, DEVIL BUTT KICKING CLASSES every Monday??!! Yes, please!!!! Madi posts about writing, life, devil butt-kicking, and tons of other things on her personal blog, but you can also find her on her doll blog @ Delightful World of Dolls.

Ok, this isn’t technically a magazine, it’s actually a book, but I didn’t have room up in the books section, so. 😉

Cover Up for Christ

Ok, maybe this isn’t a magazine either, but it’s an amazing organization that I had to fit somewhere in this post. 😛

Stone Soup

This is a really good (actual) magazine! It is a children’s magazine featuring stories, art, poems, and book reviews from children under thirteen all over the US. I actually submitted my first short to them over a year ago, got it accepted and published in their Nov./Dec. 2016 issue!

Crown of Beauty Magazine

This is an e-magazine that I heard about from a friend a while back and decided to check out. Haven’t got a chance to read much yet, but so far so good. 😉

Set Apart Girl

This is another e-magazine that I found not too long ago and can’t wait to read more of. 😀

Thanks for reading the third post in my series! If you skimmed a little, that’s fine; it was long anyways. 😉 Chow for now!

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PS: If you want more magazines and books to check out, look at Chloe three other posts HERE, HERE, and HERE.

Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit

Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit with our: Choices


Good day, girlies!

Welcome to post #2 of my series for girls: Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit. Last time we talked about our Friendships, and today we are going to be talking about our Choices.

Making the right choices can be very hard sometimes. It can be very easy sometimes, as well. Just recently, I made a choice that will most likely affect my friendship and my future. It was really hard, but I do not regret it at all.

About three months ago, we switched churches. My family liked the church that we went to, but that was all. We just liked it. We didn’t feel like we belonged there, like God was leading us to go to that specific church. So, we switched to a different church, and we are much happier there. I feel like we really belong in that group of people, and that we can get the most out of the sermons, and fellowship at this church.

The new church (Faith) also has a Youth Group. I wanted to go to Faith’s Youth Group, but I already went to the other church’s Youth Group. I was torn between feeling at home at Faith’s Youth Group, or staying with my friend in the other Youth Group.

My friend at the other Youth Group, let’s just call her Sarah, well, Sarah didn’t want me to go to a different Youth Group than her. She wants to be by my side every second of the day. And, it gets really annoying. She pouts if I don’t do what she wants, and she even dropped out of going to the lake with our Youth Group because I got sick and couldn’t go. Overall, she’s clingy. She is still my friend, but Sarah is a bit clingy.

After much debating, I chose to go to Faith’s Youth Group. I knew that I wanted to go there, and not to the other one. No matter how many great friends I had at the other Youth Group, I feel like God really lead me to choose Faith. I do not regret that choice – and that’s how I know that I made the right choice.

There have been many times where I have made the wrong choices (I won’t get into all that right now). And, the truth is, I regret those choices. A lot.

So, how do we know when we’ve made the right choices? We don’t regret them. We benefit from them. And how do we know when we’ve made the wrong choices? They haunt us until we have the courage to kneel down and ask God to forgive us for making them.

Always think before you make a big choice. Pray and ask God for guidance before you make a choice, and if it is His will, it will be done.

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Friendship, Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit

Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit with our: Friendships


Hello, girls!!

I have wanted to start a series of sorts for you girls on here for a while, but I couldn’t decide on the topic of the overall series. After some brainstorming and lots (I mean lots) of different (and cool) ideas, I decided on one that I felt like would be fun to talk about: Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit.

This series will be about how we can live a better life as we grow into womanhood. I will discuss how we can purify ourselves in all aspects of our daily lives in lots of different posts.

Today’s topic is Friendship.

How can we purify ourselves with our friendships, you ask?

Well, first off, I believe that we all need to set a couple of standards for people we are friends with. And I don’t mean all that “you have to do exactly what I say and do what I do” wishy-washy trash, I mean that, as Christians, we can’t go off befriending people who are bad examples for how we should behave as Christians. For example, here are my standards for friendship:

  • he/she DOES NOT use any foul language
  • he/she DOES NOT wear inappropriate clothing (at least in public)
  • he/she DOES NOT try to dishonor God in any way
  • he/she IS NOT a bully in any way or form to any person
  • he/she is able to treat me as a friend should be treated and vice-versa

So, those are my standards for the people whom I am friends with. I am not friends with anyone who does the opposite of anything on that list, and I do not intend to try to be friends with anyone who does the opposite of anything on that list.

Now, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t try to reach out to people who need the Lord  -because we should all do that – but I personally would not invite someone over to my house who swears, wears inappropriate clothing, and does not treat me (or someone else) nicely. Would you? Yeah…I didn’t think so.

But, we can’t just judge a person by their outside, right? We can’t just say “oh, that girl’s shorts are too short so I’m not gonna be friends with her”. Before becoming friends, I get to know the girl/boy a tad. Not, like, having him/her over to my house or hanging out “like friends do”.

I mean listening when he/she is talking (NOT eavesdropping) so that I know what he/she talks about. Sometimes (it depends on the person) I even ask a good, Christian friend who knows him/her and can tell me what he/she is like.

We all need to set standards for our friendships. It may seem like you are limiting your options for friends, but believe me, you will end up having a few very valuable friends rather than a bunch of bad influences that we call “friends”.

Make the right choices and you will have best friends who will be by your side for the rest of your life. 🙂

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