Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit

Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit with our: Choices

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Good day, girlies!

Welcome to post #2 of my series for girls: Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit. Last time we talked about our Friendships, and today we are going to be talking about our Choices.

Making the right choices can be very hard sometimes. It can be very easy sometimes, as well. Just recently, I made a choice that will most likely affect my friendship and my future. It was really hard, but I do not regret it at all.

About three months ago, we switched churches. My family liked the church that we went to, but that was all. We just liked it. We didn’t feel like we belonged there, like God was leading us to go to that specific church. So, we switched to a different church, and we are much happier there. I feel like we really belong in that group of people, and that we can get the most out of the sermons, and fellowship at this church.

The new church (Faith) also has a Youth Group. I wanted to go to Faith’s Youth Group, but I already went to the other church’s Youth Group. I was torn between feeling at home at Faith’s Youth Group, or staying with my friend in the other Youth Group.

My friend at the other Youth Group, let’s just call her Sarah, well, Sarah didn’t want me to go to a different Youth Group than her. She wants to be by my side every second of the day. And, it gets really annoying. She pouts if I don’t do what she wants, and she even dropped out of going to the lake with our Youth Group because I got sick and couldn’t go. Overall, she’s clingy. She is still my friend, but Sarah is a bit clingy.

After much debating, I chose to go to Faith’s Youth Group. I knew that I wanted to go there, and not to the other one. No matter how many great friends I had at the other Youth Group, I feel like God really lead me to choose Faith. I do not regret that choice – and that’s how I know that I made the right choice.

There have been many times where I have made the wrong choices (I won’t get into all that right now). And, the truth is, I regret those choices. A lot.

So, how do we know when we’ve made the right choices? We don’t regret them. We benefit from them. And how do we know when we’ve made the wrong choices? They haunt us until we have the courage to kneel down and ask God to forgive us for making them.

Always think before you make a big choice. Pray and ask God for guidance before you make a choice, and if it is His will, it will be done.

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Friendship, Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit

Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit with our: Friendships

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Hello, girls!!

I have wanted to start a series of sorts for you girls on here for a while, but I couldn’t decide on the topic of the overall series. After some brainstorming and lots (I mean lots) of different (and cool) ideas, I decided on one that I felt like would be fun to talk about: Purifying the Mind, Body, and Spirit.

This series will be about how we can live a better life as we grow into womanhood. I will discuss how we can purify ourselves in all aspects of our daily lives in lots of different posts.

Today’s topic is Friendship.

How can we purify ourselves with our friendships, you ask?

Well, first off, I believe that we all need to set a couple of standards for people we are friends with. And I don’t mean all that “you have to do exactly what I say and do what I do” wishy-washy trash, I mean that, as Christians, we can’t go off befriending people who are bad examples for how we should behave as Christians. For example, here are my standards for friendship:

  • he/she DOES NOT use any foul language
  • he/she DOES NOT wear inappropriate clothing (at least in public)
  • he/she DOES NOT try to dishonor God in any way
  • he/she IS NOT a bully in any way or form to any person
  • he/she is able to treat me as a friend should be treated and vice-versa

So, those are my standards for the people whom I am friends with. I am not friends with anyone who does the opposite of anything on that list, and I do not intend to try to be friends with anyone who does the opposite of anything on that list.

Now, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t try to reach out to people who need the Lord  -because we should all do that – but I personally would not invite someone over to my house who swears, wears inappropriate clothing, and does not treat me (or someone else) nicely. Would you? Yeah…I didn’t think so.

But, we can’t just judge a person by their outside, right? We can’t just say “oh, that girl’s shorts are too short so I’m not gonna be friends with her”. Before becoming friends, I get to know the girl/boy a tad. Not, like, having him/her over to my house or hanging out “like friends do”.

I mean listening when he/she is talking (NOT eavesdropping) so that I know what he/she talks about. Sometimes (it depends on the person) I even ask a good, Christian friend who knows him/her and can tell me what he/she is like.

We all need to set standards for our friendships. It may seem like you are limiting your options for friends, but believe me, you will end up having a few very valuable friends rather than a bunch of bad influences that we call “friends”.

Make the right choices and you will have best friends who will be by your side for the rest of your life. 🙂

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