As a growing child, my mum oftentimes unintentionally compared me to my sister.
It was really frustrating and I hated it. My siblings also compared me to my classmates and friends. It made me feel inferior, but I tried not to show it. I grew up using the life of others to set a standard for myself I compare myself with people so much, I even started comparing my spiritual life to that of others.
“Look at her hair, it’s so long.”
“Look at her face, she is really beautiful.”
“Her body is so perfect.”
It’s not bad to appreciate a person, but it’s not enough reason to feel less than or feel inferior to the person.
You feel your parents aren’t rich enough, you body is not perfect, you don’t have the perfect height or voice. You’re ashamed of something about yourself (a disability, your body, face, family, background).
Comparing yourself with others will only lead to LIVING A FAKE LIFE. You’ll want to meet up to the standards, so you’ll act like what you’re not. Living a fake life is extremely stressful because you live your life based on a lie and lying is a sin. And it will be really embarrassing when the truth is uncovered.
Those who compare themselves to others according to the Bible are not wise.
When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise (2corinthians 10:12), they are foolish.
But it is difficult not to compare yourself to others. You’ll always see someone that has what you want. Life can be really sad when your parents can’t afford the things other parents can, there is so much chaos in your family and you can see how peaceful other families are, when you have no one to talk to, when you feel inferior because of your physical appearance or a disability.
Instead of comparing yourself to others, if you don’t like what is going on in your life;
talk to God about it.
Ask Him to show you that you are unique, special, and peculiar. Tell Him how you compare yourself to others and why you do it. Tell Him you don’t want to do it anymore. Ask God to intervene.
stop exalting people.
You can appreciate them, but don’t exalt them. There is always something you have that they don’t and vice versa, because we are all different. If you feel that you’re not beautiful or you could look better, I recommend you read my post, The Beauty Secret.
talk to a trusted friend or adult.
Note the word trusted. Your pastor, friends, or a parent. You’ll be surprised to know that people have gone through this and God has helped them. They can give helpful advice and tips.
read your Bible.
You’ll discover truths about yourself that no one can tell you. So dive in! There’s a lot for you to know.
No matter what you’re going through, it’s not enough for you to compare yourself. It’s like telling God that you’re not grateful. You are there wishing you had someone’s life and someone is somewhere wishing they had your life.
I’m not different from whosoever is going through this because I am also in the same shoes, but I’ve been praying to God about it and that’s why I decided to write this. I hope it ministers to you girl.
You are a wonderful being.
The Almighty made you and He has plans for you.
For I know the thoughts I think towards you, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you hope and an expected end.” Jeremiah 29:11
God cares about you and he wants you to talk to him.
Walk tall girl! Stand tall!! You’re loved by the heavenly king and that’s enough to make your whole life a fairytale.
Hey there, my name is Boluwatife (meaning “how God wants it”). I enjoy singing and writing.
I love seeing ladies take a stand for what is right and doing Godly things. I am passionate about pleasing God and living a fulfilled life.
I also love making new friends, so let’s be friends