Friendship, Guest Post, Relationships

Repairing a Relationship

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Broken relationships are as old as the Bible. In Psalm 55:12-14, David describes his pain because of a friend’s betrayal,

“For it is not an enemy who reproaches me; then I could bear it. Nor is it one who hates me who has exalted himself against me; then I could hide from him. But it was you, a man my equal, my companion and my acquaintance. We took sweet counsel together, and walked to the house of God in the throng.”

Because we invest love and time into our relationships, a part of us is destroyed when a relationship is damaged. Thankfully, there are practical steps available to handle a broken relationship. Here are four that I have applied in my life.

1) Meet in person

Technological communication can cause us to forget the real person with vulnerable emotions on the other side of the text or email. When a friendship is waning, arrange a time to see each other. If meeting in person is not an option, then try a phone or Facetime call. Talking directly forces you to engage with each other, which is often lacking from text or email. Establishing personal, direct communication can breathe life into a dying relationship.

2) Be honest

Dramatic confrontations are unnecessary, but we do need to be open about our feelings. Several months ago I mentioned to a friend that she was not responding to my texts. She explained that she had been extra distracted and busy lately, which eased my mind. In the past, I have overreacted to relationship problems, only to discover the facts later. My friends did not suddenly start hating me; they just had commitments that prevented them from contacting me. Being honest can save friendships and keep drama to a minimum.

3) Face your failings

Proverbs 28:13 says,

“He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.”

This is especially true with family relationships. We cannot undo our mistakes. However, we can show genuine remorse to the person we hurt and express a desire to change our behavior. After genuinely apologizing to the person we hurt, we should recognize the problem with our behavior and ask for their grace and support as we work to fix that character flaw.

4) Ban bitterness

It hurts when a friend stops communicating for no apparent reason, but jumping to conclusions only worsens the situation. We are not aware of their present situation. They could be dealing with something that has captured their attention. Even if they have chosen to move on, we must remain positive because bitterness only hurts us. Whether or not that relationship is ever restored, we can choose to highlight the positive memories and diminish the bad. Just like David in the Bible, we will face broken relationships. Tension is a part of living in a broken world. But God is the repairer of broken things. When we surrender our relationship to Him and prayerfully take steps to restore the relationship, we can trust that He will give us His wisdom.

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Joy, Thankfulness

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Hope y’all had/are having a great Thanksgiving! Since it is Thanksgiving, I thought I would share some verses and thoughts about thankfulness and thanksgiving….

The Pilgrims had a lot of things they could have grieved about. Many died in the hard and cold winter before, and they were in the wilderness. But instead, they gave thanks for their blessings, such as their Indian friendship.

It can be super hard to be thankful, especially when times are bad. But there is always something to be thankful for. When I have had a really hard week, I can be thankful that God gave me trials that I could bear up with. When we hear about something really bad in the news, we can be thankful that God is in control! Again, it is hard to be thankful in an evil world! So, here are some things I am thankful for:

  • My family
  • Vacations to fun places
  • Latin class
  • Young Ladies for Christ
  • My friends whom I meet every Sunday, and every Wednesday
  • Music
  • A roof over my head
  • Sleep
  • That God loves us and is in control of the world

And here are some verses that reminded me of how praiseworthy our God is:

 Psalm 100:4:

“Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name.” Psalm 100:4

Ezra 3:11:

“With praise and thanksgiving they sang to the Lord: “He is good; his love toward Israel endures forever.” And all the people gave a great shout of praise to the Lord, because the foundation of the house of the Lord was laid.”

1 Chronicles 16:34:

“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.”

If you have a free moment, here is a thanksgiving hymn 🙂

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So, have a happy Thanksgiving!!! Eat lots of turkey, stuffing, and remember why we are celebrating!

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DIY, Thankfulness

DIY: Thankfulness Tree

Hello, ladies! For those of you in the U.S., can you believe that Thanksgiving is tomorrow?

One of my favorite parts of Thanksgiving is making what I call a Thankfulness Tree. Making a Thankfulness Tree is such a fun way to count my blessings, and I thought that I would share it would all of you so that you can make one, too!

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Supplies needed:

Scissors

Small glass jar or vase

Sticks

String

Colored paper (Orange, red, and yellow)

Hole Puncher

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First, put the sticks in the jar. This part is really easy and will be your “tree”. 😀

 

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Next, cut out several leaf shapes from the colored paper. (Pretend mine look like leaves ;D)

 

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Punch a hole in the leaves and tie a loop of string to them.

And now, the most fun part!

Write something that you are thankful for on every leaf, and see how many leaves you can cover your tree with throughout Thanksgiving day!

 

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What are some things you are thankful for today?

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving, and if you don’t celebrate Thanksgiving, have a wonderful day!

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Announcments

Calling All Girls: YLFC is Accepting Submissions!

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The Young Ladies for Christ Team is very proud to announce that we will now be accepting submissions from our readers!!!

Have an article, short story, or book review that you’d like to share? Consider heading over and checking out our Write for Us page for more details: https://youngladiesforchrist.wordpress.com/submissions/

We hope you’ll consider writing for us. God bless!

-The YLFC Team

Joy, Thankfulness

Thankful for the Little Things

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Sometimes when we get back into the school year, and are so overwhelmed with busyness that we lose track of the important things in life. Sometimes we’re so busy that we forget to take time to look around and observe. We forget to be thankful. Now, don’t think I’m trying to point fingers here, I’m sure I’m just about one of the worst with this, as I always tell myself I don’t have time to do these things. School is important, and so are a lot of those other things, but sometimes we need to take some time to breathe, and to observe.

You might notice I’ve said the word observe multiple times here… what do I mean by that? Well… I mean that you have to notice the little things. And be thankful for them. You don’t have to take a ton of time doing this! But it’s not as hard as we make it!

As you walk out the door, notice the bright blue sky.

As you get in the car, be thankful for a running heater!

As you step out of your car, notice the beautiful fall leaves falling from the trees!

When you eat lunch, be thankful that you have a lunch to eat.

And as you crawl into bed, be thankful for those warm covers.

As you glance at yourself in the mirror, be glad that you have a reason to smile.

When you wake up, be thankful to God that you have another day to live and breathe and worship him!

During church, be glad that you have the freedom to be a Christian!

When you sit and cuddle with your pet, be thankful that you have companions and friends in life!

Now all of these aren’t just “little things”, but there are plenty of obvious, AND plenty little things – all of which we should be thankful for.

You might already do all these things, but I’m sure each one of us could use a reminder every now and then.  And what better time for a reminder than when we’re less than a week away from thanksgiving!? So, as you rush around your busy life, take time to be thankful, even if it’s for the littlest things, and take time to shoot a silent prayer of thanks up to God for all that you have. And, hey, if you’re feeling extra grateful, why not share some of that with a friend by commenting on how beautiful of a day it is, or how happy you are? Sometimes just one happy, grateful person, can make a whole crowd of people thankful again! You might just light a spark. 😉

No thankfulness post is complete without a few verses, so I will leave you with just that.

Colossians 3:15

And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.

1 Corinthians 16:8

Give thanks unto the LORD, call upon his name, make known his deeds among the people.

1 Thessalonians 5:18

In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

(All verses are KJV)

This was kind of a short post, but I hope you enjoyed it!

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Christian Songs, List

Christian Song List

Christian Song List

Looking for some good Christian music? Try these!

  • Hard Love – NEEDTOBREATHE ft. Lauren Daigle
  • Live it well – Switchfoot
  • Steady Me – Hollyn
  • City on a hill – Toby Mac
  • My Everything – Owl City
  • Through all of it – Colton Dixon
  • Even if – MercyMe
  • Testify – NEEDTOBREATHE
  • Chainbreaker  – Zach Williams
  • Ever Be – Aaron Shust
  • Priceless – For King and Country
  • Bulletproof – Citizen Way
  • When We Pray – Tauren Wells
  • First – Lauren Daigle
  • Come Alive (Dry Bones) – Lauren Daigle

I know those are a lot of songs, but I hope you’ll take the time to check them out. They’re really great. 😉 Have a nice day!

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Fruits of the Spirit, Patience

The Fruit of the Spirit – Patience

The Fruit of the Spirit- Patience

Good morning, ladies! At least, it’s morning here in San Antonio 🙂 Today we will be talking about patience! I struggle with this a lot, though I guess I have gotten a bit better as the years have gone by? Anyway, let’s get started!

Definition: the quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.

OR

an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay

I think that the first definition relates more to what we are talking about, but I like the second definition because of the beginning.

Patience is important because 1) we make ourselves miserable if we can’t tolerate anything annoying 2) we make others miserable if we can’t tolerate anything annoying, because we will always be cross 3) there are lots of things in the world that need patience, or else it could end blowing up in your face! I was thinking of a book I read recently about WWII, and how it takes patience to deal with countries, but this is also true in everyday life!

Here are a few things that we can do to show patience:

  • Try not to show your annoyance when your younger sibling, or classmate is annoying you
  • Try to not to get angry when a task is hard; it is hard to think through it when you are angry! Trust me, I have had this experience before

So, I just wanted to say that I am still struggling with patience! Just this morning, my brother came into the room I was working in screeching at the top of his lungs, and I definitely felt a wave of anger wash over me. You just gotta do your best, and ask Jesus to change you!

I also wanted to tell y’all about something that has just recently happened. So, I used to be super irritated, cross, and grumpy about EVERYTHING! I don’t know if it was hormones, or what, but it lasted a long time. So, after a long tearful talk with my mom, she told me to start keeping a journal about the things I was thankful for. For a few days, I kept that journal, entering in 3-5 things to be thankful for morning and night, and occasionally noon. Seriously, it worked really well! After about a week, I felt much happier about things. I even felt like I loved my super annoying little brother more! So, if you ever have the same problem as I do, try this!

Have a wonderful day!

 

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Your Walk With God

Keeping God First in Your Life

Keeping God First in Your Life

Hi everyone! Today’s topic is keeping God first.

In today’s day in age, most everyone has a somewhat busy schedule. Sometimes it is hard to find time for God. However, we have to remember that God has to deal with all the problems of the universe, yet He still made time to send His Son to die for us. You might say, “Well He is God! He can do anything!” That is true, and that’s why we don’t have to deal with all the problems in the universe!!

To us, our problems and activities seem important. But when you take a look at the grand scheme of things, they are really just small unimportant things compared to God’s big plan. Now don’t misunderstand me. I’m not saying they are not important at all, it is just that there are many more important things that God has in His plan for you.

This might mean you have to give up some of the activities you do to make time for God. But not always. Just listen to what God has to say to you. And as always, keep God first in your life.

My grandmother once told me, “I don’t care how long you pray to God at night, just pray. Even if it is just a sentence. I don’t care how much you read your Bible at night, just read. Even if it is just a verse.” Now this certainly doesn’t mean that we should just read a verse or pray a quick sentence up to heaven all the time. But it does mean keep yourself in the Bible and pray to God every day.

I hope you girls enjoyed this! Have a wonderful day!

 

 

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Faith

Filled Up

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Would you rather be full of God, or full of Satan? The answer is simple: full of God. In order to be full of God He has to be our complete focus, the one we turn to for making every choice and every decision. When we put Him first in each situation and go to Him for counseling when we need advice, His presence grows inside of us. I personally don’t believe you can lose your salvation, but I do believe that you can lose a strong bond with the Lord when you are a Christian. I’m sure all of us have seen people that we think are Christians but don’t have a strong walk with the Lord, and people that we KNOW are Christians and we KNOW have a strong walk with the Lord. Even if both are Christians, some may not be as attuned with God or as willing to put Him first as others.

What I’ve recently realized is that all the space that doesn’t have God in it can be taken up by Satan’s influence. When you are completely filled with Christ, there is no room left for Satan’s lies anywhere in your heart. But when you slack off and your heart isn’t as full with God, there is room for Satan to step in. So if you have a lot of God in your heart but aren’t completely full with him, then Satan can still come in and take over part of it until you surrender it to God–ONLY God, and no others. When I say Satan, I mean more of our human flesh. As a human, there are things we may say to one another without realizing that it hurts them, and there are things we may do to others that make us feel good, even when it’s mean. When someone disagrees with us, our first instinct is to stick up for what we said in the first place (which starts arguments). When someone says something rude, we want to shoot back something meaner.

This is our flesh that does this. God is not like that. He doesn’t do that. Satan uses our fleshly instincts to go against what God wants. But when you let God enter your heart and you invite him to come ALL the way in, when you pray daily and read your bible, he will enter more and more until there is no room left for Satan to use you or for sinful instincts to take over. It’s just God in there. When you really let God in so that he can handle your life, it’s so much better. And it doesn’t stop there. He can continue to fill you until his presence is overflowing out of you. When you fill up a cup, it stays full. But if you just keep dumping water in, it will overflow! That’s what we want God to do. To fill us up so much with him that it overflows to everyone around us: his love, his faithfulness, his trustworthiness, and his joy!

That way, people that look at us and see God overflowing from within us, and not anything else. I truly realized this when I got back from my missions trip to Mexico. It was actually more like a youth camp, and we were in TX most of the time. But it was SO amazing, because being around the people I was around just brought so much joy to me! They were always smiling and happy, and I just KNEW they were like that because God was inside them. And when I was around someone like that and I could see that God was like that in them, I really wanted it for myself.

I knew I was a Christian, and I prayed, but I hadn’t fully devoted myself to Christ. I prayed quite a bit actually, and when I came to troubles, I looked to him for help. But I wasn’t taking time to thank him for everything as well. And I wasn’t looking for the little things in life that are amazing. I never made time to read my bible, and I’m ashamed to admit that, but it’s true. I KNOW and realize how important that is, and that it HAS to come first every day, or else God will not fill you up and there will be room for worldly things: what Satan wants you to do and what your human flesh is telling you to do. So sometimes you have to get away from all that (even somewhere away from home literally–for me that place was Mexico) and get your eyes fixed on GOD and what HE wants to do in your life. And then he will fill you up.

Have you ever been worried to be around someone who wasn’t godly, because you didn’t want them to rub off on you and make you rude to others like they were? I have! But at the same time you really want to be a good influence on them? I get scared sometimes that it might flip flop and they would be a bad influence on me! But when you stop worrying about all that, and strengthen your walk with God and let him take care of it, then he will be SO full inside your heart that there won’t be any room for worldly things that try to work there way in there. So when you feel like you have a strong walk with God, and you feel temptations pulling at you, you have to just say “NO. God is leading my life. He is the master!”

I’ll leave you with a couple Bible verses I found. One I came across just this morning!

Romans 15:13 “Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost.”

Proverbs 27:7 “The full soul loatheth a honeycomb; but to the hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet.”

So when we’re not full, we mistake bad for good. That’s what I get out of that last one. The first one is kind of straight forward. Anyways, I hope you enjoyed this post! And I’m not saying I’m perfect with this yet. I’m still trying to work on it. I really want to make sure I’m being a godly influence on others. And when I say go to God first, that doesn’t mean you can’t go to other Christians and talk to them. God gives us people like that because he knows that sometimes we need another person to talk to. Anyways, I hope you liked it! Thanks so much! And have a blessed day “filled” with God’s love! 🙂

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Fruits of the Spirit, Peace

The Fruit of the Spirit – Peace

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Hey ladies! Today, we will be discussing peace. Let’s get started!

Definition: freedom of the mind from annoyance, distraction, anxiety, an obsession, etc.; tranquillity; serenity

Peace is important because 1) it keeps countries from being at war all the time, 2) it gives us a rest from worries, anxieties, and distractions, and 3) it helps us hear the Lord better when he speaks to us. Now, I know that God often speaks to us very randomly. He usually speaks to me by this one Bible verse that really fires me up because it relates to something I’ve been struggling with, or a song in church. Of course, messages from God are not limited to that. Here is a verse about peace:

And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.Philippians 4:7 (ESV)

I love those moments when I am completely at peace, either from crying really hard, or just the peace that comes from reading a comforting verse when I am afraid. Now, it can be hard to show peace, but here are some ways you can do it:

  1. You can be a peacemaker when you and someone else disagree (I know this is really hard because I have lots of siblings, but it’s worth a try!).
  2. You can try not to get super annoyed or angry when someone mistreats or annoys you (again, I struggle with this!).

Have a great day!

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