Beauty, Comparison, Your True Identity

Stop Comparing Yourself {Guest Post by Boluwatife}

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As a growing child, my mum oftentimes unintentionally compared me to my sister.

It was really frustrating and I hated it. My siblings also compared me to my classmates and friends. It made me feel inferior, but I tried not to show it. I grew up using the life of others to set a standard for myself I compare myself with people so much, I even started comparing my spiritual life to that of others.

“Look at her hair, it’s so long.”

“Look at her face, she is really beautiful.”

“Her body is so perfect.”

It’s not bad to appreciate a person, but it’s not enough reason to feel less than or feel inferior to the person.

You feel your parents aren’t rich enough, you body is not perfect, you don’t have the perfect height or voice. You’re ashamed of something about yourself (a disability, your body, face, family, background).

Comparing yourself with others will only lead to LIVING A FAKE LIFE. You’ll want to meet up to the standards, so you’ll act like what you’re not. Living a fake life is extremely stressful because you live your life based on a lie and lying is a sin. And it will be really embarrassing when the truth is uncovered.

Those who compare themselves to others according to the Bible are not wise.
When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise (2corinthians 10:12), they are foolish.

But it is difficult not to compare yourself to others. You’ll always see someone that has what you want. Life can be really sad when your parents can’t afford the things other parents can, there is so much chaos in your family and you can see how peaceful other families are, when you have no one to talk to, when you feel inferior because of your physical appearance or a disability.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, if you don’t like what is going on in your life;

talk to God about it.

Ask Him to show you that you are unique, special, and peculiar. Tell Him how you compare yourself to others and why you do it. Tell Him you don’t want to do it anymore. Ask God to intervene.

stop exalting people.

You can appreciate them, but don’t exalt them. There is always something you have that they don’t and vice versa, because we are all different. If you feel that you’re not beautiful or you could look better, I recommend you read my post, The Beauty Secret.

talk to a trusted friend or adult.

Note the word trusted. Your pastor, friends, or a parent. You’ll be surprised to know that people have gone through this and God has helped them. They can give helpful advice and tips.

read your Bible.

You’ll discover truths about yourself that no one can tell you. So dive in! There’s a lot for you to know.

No matter what you’re going through, it’s not enough for you to compare yourself. It’s like telling God that you’re not grateful. You are there wishing you had someone’s life and someone is somewhere wishing they had your life.

I’m not different from whosoever is going through this because I am also in the same shoes, but I’ve been praying to God about it and that’s why I decided to write this. I hope it ministers to you girl.

You are a wonderful being.

The Almighty made you and He has plans for you.

For I know the thoughts I think towards you, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you hope and an expected end.” Jeremiah 29:11

God cares about you and he wants you to talk to him.

Walk tall girl! Stand tall!!  You’re loved by the heavenly king and that’s enough to make your whole life a fairytale. 💞

Hey there, my name is BoluwatifeIMG_20180401_141950 (meaning “how God wants it”). I enjoy singing and writing.

I love seeing ladies take a stand for what is right and doing Godly things. I am passionate about pleasing God and living a fulfilled life.

I also love making new friends, so let’s be friends 🤗

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Faith, Trust, Your Walk With God

The Master Planner

The Master Planner

It’s the time of year where school is coming to a close and things are getting really busy.

In the fast-paced culture we live in, it’s easy to get caught up in the business of life – the tasks, the responsibilities, the appointments, the obligations – the list goes on and on.

With a thousand things grabbing our attention every day, the tasks, responsibilities, and obligations are taking over our lives and diverting our attention from Him to self.

Something that has helped me keep up with everything is having a planner. Making a schedule of what you need to do can be a lifesaver!

Keep in mind that, although having plans and setting goals is great and a super helpful thing, we need to remember that those things won’t always work out the way we expect them (or want them) to.

Plan, but don’t hold on to those plans. Hold fast to the one Who is the Master planner! He knows and will direct your steps in the way He deems best. 🌻

The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” Proverbs 16:9

Rebecca

The Bible

Ten of My Favorite Bible Verses

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Hello, ladies!

Today I’ll be sharing with you ten of my very favorite Bible verses! I hope you enjoy them, and that if you’re having a hard day, one of these will help you. All of these are from the KJV of the Bible, my favorite translation.

A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”

– Proverbs 17:17

 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.”

– Philippians 4:6

Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”

– Ephesians 4:31-32

Whether therefore ye eat,  or drink, or whatsovever ye do, do all to the Glory of God.

– 1 Corinthians 10:31

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

– John 3:16

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.

He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.”

– Psalm 23

(I’m sure you know what that was! 😉 )

And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.”

– Galatians 6:9

Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.”

– Matthew 7:7

We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair;

Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed;

Always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body.”

– 2 Corinthians 4:8-10

Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep.”

– Romans 12:15

Well, ladies, those are ten of my favorite Bible verses! I hope you enjoyed.

What are your favorite Bible verses?

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Faith, Guest Post, Trust, Worth, Your Walk With God

Does God Love Me When He’s Distant? {Guest Post by Bethany}

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“Could God really love me enough to die for me? I’m so unworthy.”

I was sixteen years old and acutely aware of my own sinfulness. I’d grown up knowing that I was a sinner saved by grace, but somehow that year I wondered.

How could God possibly love me? How could He want to die for me?

As I battled the growing doubts, more troubles arrived—my body had been frail for a few years, but suddenly the undiagnosed Lyme disease started to wreak havoc in every area of my life and countless bodily systems.

I felt my world crumbling, and at the very time I needed God most, He felt distant. I didn’t know if it was His own choice or my doubt separating us, but one thing I knew: I was desperate to reach Him.

I didn’t know it then, but my desperation for God showed just how much I missed Him. It was a good thing, knowing that I couldn’t handle the separation any longer.

When God Feels Distant

Dear heart, I don’t know why God allows seasons of distance. I do know that if you’re experiencing distance, it doesn’t brand you as a bad Christian. An overwhelming majority of the Psalms were written by a man who felt God had rejected him. Sometimes it was because of his sin, sometimes he had no idea why the God he loved was no longer near.

In those seasons, crying out to God is sometimes our last desire. But perhaps the dry seasons are there to remind us how much we need God.

Before I doubted my worth to God, I had just taken His love for granted.

When the wall grew between us. I pounded and screamed and couldn’t hear His response. Was He ignoring me?

When our emotions are crazy or numbed by depression, we can’t always feel God’s nearness.

I certainly couldn’t. But during that season, I learned to depend on the truth of His love, rather than my emotions.

Loved And Worthy-In Him

Of course I was unworthy. But I had let my own self-image penetrate my thoughts. I began to believe that God must reject me just as I was rejecting myself.

Slowly, God taught me truths about who I was in Him.

He showed me that even if I were to reach my own ideal of perfection, it wouldn’t sanctify me enough for Heaven.

I needed to stop looking for righteousness in myself. I could never attain holiness on my own. The Bible says,

For there is no distinction, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, whom God put forward as a propitiation by his blood, to be received by faith.” Romans 3:22a-25b

Once you acknowledge your brokenness, there is no need to remain there. 1 John 1:9 tells us,

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

Yes, I was indeed flawed beyond what I could repair. But God had redeemed me! I didn’t need to wallow in my past guilt or even my present mistakes.

Because of Christ, God has wiped away our sin.

And I didn’t need to worry about God loving my unworthiness again. God had died for me while I was yet a sinner. (Romans 5:8) And if God had given His own son for me, I could trust His sovereignty over my life. (Romans 8:32)

Trusting God

When God feels distant, silent, or far away, He wants us to learn to trust Him.

Trust He still loves you no matter your sin, struggle, or scars, because of Christ.

Trust God’s wisdom. He really does know best. Your life is in good hands. He has you.

Trust His plan. We need to relinquish our dreams for our life and trust that no matter the trials, God’s love lasts. There will be heartbreak and pain, but suffering is His tool to shape our hearts and share His goodness to the world.

Trust God’s strength. You can come to Him for rescue. When sin grips you, you don’t have to succumb.

Trust His redemption. If you have accepted His salvation, He truly has forgiven you of all your sins. You don’t have to be perfect on your own.

Trust God’s word. He has given you everything you need for godliness. Don’t hide from Scripture. It contains hard truths and honest teaching, but it is life to your soul.

Come to your Father when He feels distant. Is your heart cold? Does your conscience continually berate you? Have you sinned?

God may feel distant, but He has not forsaken you.

He cannot forsake one who is truly His, who truly obeys Him with their heart. Jesus was forsaken for you. He was crushed for me. The wrath we deserved was already poured out.

I know it is hard, darling. But the suffering comes out of the loving heart of the Father who gave up His son for you. He has led you to this painful place. You’re not required to minimize the pain, but rather allow God to bear it for you.

If you have been walking in sin, perhaps He is drawing you back to Him. Maybe He desires you to release props—friends, financial security, health—and depend only on Him. Perhaps He is reaching a lost soul through your humble acceptance of the trial.

Whatever wilderness we roam, God loves us with an everlasting love. (Jeremiah 31:1-2)

His distance is only a mirage, for He is simply showing you a new angle of His presence-the one that asks you to cling to His love alone.

Lean on Him hard, pray with all your might, and someday soon you will again feel His nearness. And you will know that His love for you never wavered.

The name Bethany means “bright city on a hill.” Bethany hopes her writing becomes just that—words of hope and beauty a bright gathering place and words of longing a signpost to Heaven’s future glories. Her calling dawned gradually as she fought chronic illness. Struggling to see the glitter in the gloomy March landscape, she found lacing words together to form a coherent meaning exhilarating. Lately she holes up to write stories, poems, and articles, or study storycraft. She write about the beauty and hope and hardship of suffering at https://wildrosejournal.com/

Culture, Guest Post, Trust

People Will Let You Down…But God Will Not {Guest Post by Rebekah}

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In this life, it’s easy to put our trust in worldly things like…

Friends…

Money…

Possessions…

Talents…

Family…

Boyfriends/girlfriends…

But what happens when these things let you down?

It’s Dangerous to Put Our Trust in Earthly Things

The Bible makes it very clear that we are supposed to put our trust in the Lord and not into worldly possessions or people. People and materialistic things will let you down, notice that I didn’t say people and things might let you down, I said that they will let you down. Humans aren’t perfect! Let’s face it we all fall short of being 100% trustworthy.

Scripture says to never fully put our trust in man/possessions because if we do we will be in for disappointment and frustration. The Bible says to love others, to put them above us, and to put our full trust in the Lord.

God Is Trust Worthy

God never lies, He never laughs at our pain, He doesn’t talk about us behind our back, and He never is disinterested in us. Instead, He is fiercely loyal, and promises to always be there for us. Loyalty is a part of God’s character. He is for us not against us.

People Are Not So Trustworthy

Unlike God, people lie, people laugh at us, and people talk about us behind our backs. They get disinterested and tired of our problems, they are not loyal, and will not always be there for us when we really need them to be. In other words, people let us down.

Put Your Trust In God, Not In People

God is the only one who will always be there for us. He is the only one who will never let us down. When we are tired, He gives us strength. When we are sad, He comforts us. When the things of this world let you down, whether it’s your boyfriend/girlfriend or even your family, know that God is always there for you 24/7. Turn to Him, trust in Him, and surrender your heart to Him, because He will never let you down.

Do not trust a neighbor;
put no confidence in a friend.
Even with the woman who lies in your embrace
guard the words of your lips.”

Micah 7:5

Rebekah is a 15-year-old blogger, who is madly in love with her Savior, Jesus Christ. She is a staff writer and author for Top Christian Books, and is a regular contributor for various sites. She hopes that what she writes encourages and inspires you to walk the narrow road. She blogs at The Narrow Road for Teens

Let Your Light Shine

3 Ways to Let Your Little Light Shine in a Big World

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I switched on the light of the flashlight that I held in my hand and smiled as it lit up the dark night around me immediately. Suddenly, everything around me was clear. I knew I wouldn’t trip over my siblings’ toys or that pesky wheelbarrow when I was holding that bright light.

But looking around as I walked through the grass to the shed, I noticed how much of the darkness that my light didn’t touch. Even though the flashlight I held gave off a strong and powerful beam, it barely lit up any of the inky darkness surrounding me.

Sometimes, we feel like this in real life. We’re all little lights shining for Jesus, but in a giant world of darkness, we can feel quite small. In a country where darkness is the norm, our lights can be trampled down and distinguished.

As teenage girls trying to shine in the world, it can be especially hard. How do we make our lights brighter to reach more people when the world is trying to persuade us to shut off our lights and join in their blind race through darkness? Here are 4 different ways just for you.

10 Little Lights = 1 Big Light

Community matters in Christianity, because we may feel small being one little light, but when a bunch of lights join together it can create one big beam.

And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.Hebrews 10: 24-25

As we fellowship with each other and work together to shine even brighter, we’ll also be helping each other and spurring each other on to go into the world and do good works. It’s like a win win. A double whammy. A… well, I think you get the point. 😉

Dare to Be Different

One way to let our lights shine in the world is to dare to be different than the rest of the sinful world. How? By choosing not to go to that party everyone else is, by choosing not to post seductive selfies on Instagram for attention, or by choosing not to do the things everyone else is doing to fit in with the world.

We should dare to be different and shine for Jesus and for Jesus alone. If we try to shine for the world, we’ll only come out dim. Jesus makes us brighter.

This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.” 1 John 1:5-7

Don’t Let Satan Blow It Out

Remember that song we all sang in Sunday School and AWANA so many times, This Little Light of Mine? The second verse goes…

Don’t let Satan blow it out,
I’m gonna let it shine

Satan will try as hard as he can to blow our lights out, but we’re going to let them shine (more on how to kick the devil’s butt here). By beating Satan down and lifting our lights out of his reach, we’re becoming brighter for the world to see.

 

Have a wonderful day, girls! And don’t forget to let your lights shine. 🙂

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Faith, Guest Post, My Testimony, Trust

From the Pen of a Little Christian {Guest Post by Ally}

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I have been going to church for a very long time. It wasn’t, at first, that I pleaded to, but it was a matter of routine – this happened every Sunday.

I didn’t pray regularly, yet I would demurely sit up and clasp my hands together every time I heard the words, “Our Father Who art in Heaven…”.

Prayer has influenced various parts and generations of my family; my maternal side believes in saints and religious politics and reading of the Bible. My paternal side had very instinctive beliefs when it came to prayer and they involved themselves in the habit of daily Bible reading and long prayers.

But it wasn’t until tragedy struck that I started the journey of Christianity.

Three years ago, my grandfather acquired jaundice and that turned out to be a cancerous tumor. During these times, my grandfather had close priests and steadfast Christians visit him. He was a great human being with the utmost humility and it’s very unfortunate that we had to lose him so soon.

My mother told me on his last day, he actually got up from his bed and hugged all his visitors. That’s why my grandfather was my legendary role-model and is my Christian soldier. After this, I relied on the mighty Power of Jesus, my Savior.

I was a nervous wreck just a few months into my teenage and was utterly lost. I was in a dark and scary forest with no light to guide me. Then I put on the Sign of the Holy Cross, and His light shone, bright and beaming, helping me see what I should do and where I should go; so I followed Him.

Sure, I bump into trees sometimes. I get scared and jump into a seemingly safe pit. But, when I believe that He’s always there to guide me, hold my unworthy hand and tell me that it’s going to be okay…guess what? It turns out okay.

And that’s the power of being faithful to Him.

Ally is a teenage blogger who has an obsession with books, particularly fiction. She is a dedicated Christian who wants to write a post about the One True King but has never been inspired. Yet, she lives in the faith that she will do so, when the Time is Right. Coming across the YLFC blog, she was struck by the longing to ride along with the others in their journey to be better Christians and voila…here she is!

Your Walk With God

Keeping Everything Organized, and How that Helps our Spiritual Life

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Hi everyone! Long time no see right? Well, let’s dive right into today’s topic.

Recently I made a change in my life. That change is keeping everything organized in my life (surprise, surprise!). This means, keeping my room clean, and I mean really clean. Not just stuffing everything that is on the floor into my closet. It also means keeping my desk clean, keeping my schedule organized (knowing what’s coming up ahead), and paying more attention to my schoolwork.

Now I know that this sounds intimidating, but it really isn’t. I have found that I feel so much better after I have done all this! There seems to be more room to breathe.

Now, all these things I have listed are all good in themselves, but how does it relate to my spiritual life? Well, I’m about to tell you. Now that you have everything under control, what’s stopping you from spending more time with God? Nothing!

So often we use the excuse, “I’m too busy.” Well not anymore! Also, we pray to God about our troubles a lot, and that’s good, but saying to God, “Please help me get an A on my test tomorrow,” without studying isn’t going to magically get you an A. Sure, prayer works, but God expects you to work hard on your responsibilities, and He will reward you if you do.

“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” – Colossians 3:23-24

Whatever you do. It’s not just certain important things in your life, it’s whatever you do. Do every little small thing to the best of your ability for God, and you will be richly rewarded.

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Fruits of the Spirit, Kindness

The Fruit of the Spirit – Kindness

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Hey ladies! So, back to our little series on the Fruit of the Spirit! Today, as you can see from the title of this post, we will be talking about kindness.

Definition of KINDNESS: The state or quality of being kind; friendly feeling of liking

Kindness is important because 1) it can be so encouraging. Seriously, one kind word to a person can really change their mood, or how they are feeling. It can make such a huge difference to those who really feel discouraged and lonely. And 2) it really reflects Jesus’s love for us, because he was always kind and compassionate.

Believe me, I know how hard this can be. I have four siblings that are all younger than I am, and they constantly frustrate me, and give me the “seriously, you had to do that?” feeling. Some days, I really feel like grunting back at them in answer when they ask me a question, or way overreacting when they do something that annoys me. It’s so hard to want to be kind.

Here’s a verse about kindness:

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.– Ephesians 4:31-32

Again, it is can be so hard to be kind and compassionate! But, we need to be kind, especially when we consider how Christ was kind and compassionate to us! He laid down His life so that we could have eternal life with Him!

Here are a few ways we can be kind to others:

  • Don’t yell at people when they annoy you, or be mean back (I have a lot of siblings, and the ones closest to my age are all boys, so I know how hard this can be! It’s something I really need to work on)
  • Clean up the kitchen after dinner for your mom
  • Bring some cookies to someone you know isn’t feeling well, or someone who is down in the dumps, just plain sad.

Have a wonderful day!

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Faith, Guest Post, List

21 Things I’ve Learned in 21 Years {Guest Post by Isabella Morganthal}

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When I was fourteen, I thought I had my whole life figured out. I mean, life couldn’t be that complicated. And seriously, those orange patterned pants with the orange tank top I wore all summer were totally the “in” thing at the time.

But I was wrong. I didn’t have anything figured out and life was so much more complicated than I thought it would be.

I am now twenty-one years old and over these last twenty-one years of my life I have learned a lot. Of course, I don’t claim to know it all and I certainly don’t have life figured out. (But thankfully, my fashion taste has matured a lot since then. Can I get an amen?)

So here is a simple list of 21 things that I have learned in the last 21 years of my life. Not all of these lessons were easy…most of them still aren’t. But I’m learning and I’m growing. And I hope by reading this that you’ll learn and grow along with me.

Disappointment is inevitable. Don’t let it stop you from dreaming anyway. The greatest gift I would ever receive was the gift of salvation in Jesus Christ. Every year I learn more about what it means to embrace this matchless, life-giving gift.

Everything that God does is good. Not easy. Good.

Don’t worry about what people think of you. Their opinion really doesn’t matter in the end. If you want to dance and sing in the grocery store produce aisle, go for it. (Coming from the almost twenty-one year old who did this yesterday.)

Life really is short. Dance in the rain (I like to dance, can you tell?). Take a drive just to roll the windows down and feel the wind in your face. Watch the sunset.

Life is also crazy busy. I’ve learned this so much as the years go by. Don’t get so caught up in the crazy that you miss the moments you love.

There’s a 98% chance your mom was right.

Don’t complain about work or chores. This past year I have battled chronic illness intensely. I have learned to appreciate the good health days. Especially the days where I have the energy to go to work or clean the house.

Your siblings are going to be your best friends. Yeah, they’re going to annoy you. And yes, they’re most likely going to make you very angry on occasion. But they really can be the best friends you’ve ever had.

Pray “Thy will be done” every day. This prayer has broken my heart and if I’m honest, I’d say it could break your heart too. When Jesus prayed it, He was so upset He sweat blood. It’s not easy, but it’s going to be good.

Jesus weeps through the pain with you (John 11:34-35). This past year, I have definitely cried my share of tears. But I do believe I have never wept alone.

Keep in touch with your friends. Don’t let distance separate you. Put effort into the
relationship. Invite them to lunch, FaceTime them, write a letter.

Memorize Scripture. It’ll change your life.

Never miss the opportunity to tell someone how much you love them. Sometimes it can be awkward to get all mushy and tell friends and family how you feel. Do it anyway while you can.

Humble yourself and apologize. You’re not right all the time. Be strong enough to admit it.

Never despise the day of small beginnings. Your time is coming. For now, keep serving where God has you. Keep dreaming and reaching for the stars.

Always keep dreaming. No matter how many people tell you it’s silly. No matter how hard it gets. Do. Not. Stop. Dreaming.

Stop making life a competition. Your success, your beauty, your hurt, and your dreams are not in competition with anyone else. God does not say “I have a plan for you as long as she doesn’t get the promotion first.” Nope. He says, “For I know the plans I have for you, plans that are good and give you hope.” (see Jeremiah 29:11) Start supporting and stop competing.

Give generously. Give of your time, money, talents, resources. We’ve been blessed to be
blessings. Go bless someone.

Don’t let pain make you someone that you are not. Sometimes life just hurts. And sometimes it hurts so deeply that it changes us. You are a survivor, not a victim. The Lord is the God who heals you. Let the pain hurt. And then let Him heal it.

Jesus Christ is worth it all. Following Jesus isn’t easy. Sometimes it’s downright difficult. But He’s worth it. He’s worth every hurt, every sacrifice, every painful choice. He is worth it all.

Life really is beautiful.

Cherish every moment.

AuthorBellaIsabella Morganthal is a writer, dreamer, and child of God. She has published five books by His grace and blogs regularly over at her personal space on the internet: Worth it All blog. To God be the glory.